Hello everyone, and thank you for being here. Today I will give you some proven techniques to learn how to stop caring what people think. First of all, do not stress! We’ve all had times in our lives when we’ve worried too much about other people’s thoughts. I believe it belongs to our nature to seek the approbation of buddies, colleagues, or co-workers. But when this becomes so excessive that we can no longer live our lives freely, this is the time to step in and change events.
Among the main reasons why we tend to worry too much about what people think we can include:
– Fear of judgment from others
– Fear of not being liked
– Not being accepted
– Feeling excluded
– Pleasing others
Considering the society we live in, I don’t think it’s possible to live without caring about other people’s opinions, with very few exceptions. That’s why I think it’s essential to find the right balance between being ourselves and living our lives and “being in society.” Before we delve into the ways you can use to improve this, I think you must have one thing in mind:
You are not alone others are thinking the same, just like you, they wonder what that person must be thinking about them. This means we are all on the same level.
How To Stop Caring What People Think
#1 You can’t please everyone
It sounds like a trivial statement, but it is not. Each individual is unique therefore, it is impossible to please everyone all the time. No matter what you are doing or where you are there will always be someone talking about you. In most cases, nothing will happen; in fact, we are the ones who give undue weight to these situations. I call it a relative reality, depending on our perception. It’s up to us to make sure it doesn’t become unbearable. We are not able to control people, then why bother so much that it affects our lives?
Fight for what you believe in not everyone will agree with you but, by claiming your territory, you will gain their respect. It won’t be easy at first but believe me, this is how it works.
#2 Learn to perceive reality from a different point of view
Let’s face it, in most cases, people do more than spend their time judging you. We all have our problems, worries, work, and so on so, in reality, people spend most of their time dealing with other things. Thinking of being the center of attention happens to everyone but almost always happens only in our heads but in reality, as a rule, the facts are very different.
#3 He who sows the wind reaps storm
It is said that we are what we think, and in my opinion, that is a great truth. It means that if you continually think a certain way, you will also begin to behave accordingly. In other words, you’re making sure that exactly that situation happens. Stop pleasing others all the time.
People don’t like overly accommodating people; the opposite is true. All of us need to confront each other to improve, and to do so we need people with whom we can have a constructive discussion. Now I ask you is it possible to do this with a person who does not express their opinions? The answer is no. If you act this way, you will get the opposite effect.
It is said that everyone is the average of the 5 people they hang out with the most so, choose carefully who you spend your time with. Considering that sometimes this is not always possible it is more important to make careful choices where possible.
#4 You have the right to your freedom
We all have the right to have our freedom. Make your own choices, pursue what you believe in and like. This will make your outlook better, happier, and more satisfying, and as a result, what people think of you will become less important or even irrelevant.
You will learn to say no to those things in which you are not interested. The pressure of others on you will slowly disappear, and your life will be better. If you know what you want you also know what you don’t care about and don’t want. So stop caring what people think.
#5 The Perfectionism Trap
Don’t fall into the trap of perfectionism. Nothing and no one in this world are perfect, everyone is perfectible. There is a tendency to pursue this path to avoid the shame of error. Mistakes cannot be avoided, it is through mistakes that we can improve. Even great people make mistakes. If Edison had had this attitude, he would never have invented the light bulb.
Before he succeeded he failed 10,000 times. Do you understand the meaning of failing 10,000 times? If he cared about people’s opinions, he would never have achieved the results he did. Instead of worrying about what people think try engaging them by asking for advice or maybe to help you with your challenge. You’ll be surprised by their reactions.
#6 You are worth
Each one of us is valuable, every person on earth has its strengths and weaknesses. You too yes just you are worthy of being loved and supported as you are. It doesn’t matter what some people may think of you. Is their opinion so important that it prevents you from living the life you want? The answer is simple, and only one, NO.
There is only one life don’t waste your time. There will come a day that will be your last, and then it will be too late. Follow this saying: Live every day like it’s your last, think as you’ll live forever.
#7 Every day you do something that scares you
Mind you, I’m not talking about crazy things that could endanger your life or the lives of others. I’m referring to learning to get out of your comfort zone. It starts with small gestures. Make that phone call you’ve been fretting about and putting off for so long. Did you not sign up for a class because you were afraid of other people’s opinions? Now is the time to do so.
For each of us, the list is potentially endless. Grab a piece of paper and write down the top 10 little things you want to do. Once you’re done, start over. All of this will boost your confidence and allow you to better understand how important it is to do what you love.
#8 The power of words
Words are a very powerful medium; if they weren’t, you wouldn’t be so concerned with people’s opinions. So why not use them to your advantage? Positively use words and seed them in your head. Pick 5 positive affirmations and repeat them every morning in front of the mirror, it’s a very powerful exercise, and every night before bed.
Don’t act like a robot you have to learn to feel the positive emotions that affirmations give you. Mentally you need to be in the position that what you are stating is true. This is the right way to get good results through affirmations. Beyond that, consistency is key.
#9 Learn to love yourself
If you don’t love yourself, how can you expect others to love you? You are the first and most important fan of yourself. If you don’t believe in your abilities and qualities this will be reflected in your life and others. People perceive these aspects so it is very important to be confident. Be careful not to overdo it you will become arrogant or even worse narcissistic.
Are you able to list your top 10 qualities? Probably not but don’t worry it happens to most people. So what are you waiting for? Grab a pen and paper and get started. Don’t think you can’t make it to 10 we all have qualities.
#10 Spend time alone
Spending time alone is critical and essential. It helps us get to know ourselves better and improve. We live in an era where everything is connected, where all you need is a phone to communicate with friends and family and know what others are doing.
I’m not saying it’s bad, used in the right ways they are very useful tools. But as with everything, excess cripples. We’re unlearning how to be with ourselves, and that’s creating big problems for us. Find activities to do on your own. As always start with simple things for example lock yourself in a room and read a book.
Or work out at home, start with 15 -20 minutes a day and increase gradually, don’t overdo it and respect your limits. Once you have gained the necessary confidence plan a walk in the mountains. Be sure to take the necessary safety measures. If you are not an expert, inform yourself.
Another good method is to find yourself a hobby. For example, I love to fish alone for days at a time. A nice vacation on your own is also a great option. Being alone helps you focus on yourself and stop caring about what people think.
#11 Those who gossip about you
Are you sure you’re the problem? I don’t think they are the problem. First of all, you have to assume that no matter what you do, there will always be someone to criticize. Now think for a moment. If a person spends their time criticizing others, are they really that confident and deserving of your attention?
Personally, I don’t think so, in fact, I think he is worse off than you, and I feel sorry for this person. People who are comfortable with themselves who pursue their goals don’t spend time talking about others are focused on their challenges. One more time, stop caring what people think, it doesn’t matter.
Keep a journal to record your progress. It will help you not forget what you’ve done and will serve as a support in difficult times. Plus it’s a great way to make your new activity habits. There are several theories about this. Some claim it takes 21 days to make an activity a habit who claim it takes 60. Certainly like anything in the beginning more effort will be needed. I believe that to get results, the next point is the most important. No matter what you decide to do.
Whatever we do all starts from the mind, from thinking. So it is essential to have a correct approach from this point of view. Our mind is still a somewhat mysterious object but some aspects are scientifically proven. One of them is that it doesn’t particularly like change.
Don’t believe me? Then why is it so hard to make changes in our lives? Think about it if that wasn’t the case everything would be so much easier. Why does our mind play against us? I don’t want to go into too much detail and honestly consider my knowledge on this subject minimal. In any case, if you want to deepen the topic the web is full of articles.
Here you find more information about guided meditation and my preferred method. Begin today stop caring what people think.
Coming back to us, the mind perceives novelties as dangers for reasons still related to caveman times. It may sound crazy, but it’s true. Our mind loves to go down known paths because it knows exactly how to behave.
Whereas when he finds himself in unfamiliar situations, he doesn’t know what to do. Again, think about it, you may have been in a situation once in your life where you had no idea what to do. Here our mind deeply desires to avoid these situations. Now the question is how do we intervene?
Fortunately, it is possible to change our mind’s perception. Many strategies are all valid. Some of these have been described in this post.
My preferred method is guided meditation. Thanks to it, I have been able to change many habits without that nagging feeling of making too much effort. In addition to that, it helps you relax and feel better.
Now you know some practices that help you how to stop caring what people think. I hope that you can use one of them to improve your life. At the same time, I suggest you download our free ebook about self-confidence. Greater self-confidence helps in all areas of life.